If you’re a guy, then there’s a good chance that you get quite a lot of your self-confidence and sense of masculinity from your performance in the bedroom. We are simply hardwired by evolution to think of our sexual prowess as an important indicator of our overall virility and success as a male and so it can be rather devastating when things don’t quite… go to plan down there.
Not only that, but it’s also pretty disappointing when you’re about to get down and dirty and you suddenly realize that your partner in crime is sleeping on the job. Talk about disappointing…
So, what do you do? Fortunately, there are a few options and a few tips that can help you get around the issue.
What’s Going On?
Perhaps the first thing to look at, is precisely why you aren’t standing to attention when you should be. By understanding the why, you stand a better chance of fixing the problem. Unfortunately, it’s not quite as simple as that and there are actually numerous reasons that you might be experiencing this problem, each with its own solution.
Commonly though, the problem is to do with circulation. Your penis becomes erect when it is engorged with blood and thus if your blood isn’t flowing in the right direction or in the right quantities, it won’t operate quite correctly. Solutions in this case include losing weight, getting more exercise or trying to use medications or supplements. Viagra works by stimulating blood flow and you can get a lesser effect from many OTC supplements or even foods in your cupboard. Garlic for instance is a great example of a ‘vasodilator’.
The other issue is to do with stress. This isn’t just an excuse: stress really does hamper your sexual performance which is because any elevation in cortisol will deplete your testosterone levels. The best thing you can do then? Relax about it!
How to Have Fun in the Meantime
The good news is that there are solutions to help you still have a good time in the meanwhile and to help your partner enjoy themselves as well. Apart from options like foreplay and sex toys, you have things like penis extenders and penis sleeves which can help to make your penis effectively longer and firmer by surrounding it with additional material. This is a great option because it also takes the pressure off to get things up and running quickly!